What Does It Mean When You Dream About Bears

What Does It Mean When You Dream About Bears

Jan Brehm of Portland woke up from a dream confused and shaken to her core. Lisa Espich of Tucson woke so deeply disturbed by a dream featuring her husband that she knew her marriage would never be the same. Jennifer Lambert of Virginia Beach felt such agitation over her dream that she cried for 30 minutes straight when she woke up—and then called her sister, from whom she'd long been estranged.

Dreams can rock us, scare us, and in some cases, inspire us. But is listening to our dreams right up there with calling a psychic hotline? Not at all, say leading experts. "People are now using their dreams as tools to make their lives better," comments Marcia Emery, PhD, a psychologist at Holos University.

This is relatively newfound respect. Many researchers used to believe that dreams simply reflected the random firing of nerve signals while we sleep. "The thinking was that the dreams were meaningless and didn't serve any function at all," says Harvard psychology professor Deirdre Barrett, PhD. But today, many scientists feel that dreams play the vital role of clarifying what truly matters to us.

"Dreaming is thinking—just in a different biochemical state," explains Barrett, author of The Committee of Sleep: How Artists, Scientists, and Athletes Use Dreams for Creative Problem-Solving—and How You Can Too. "It's a mode of contemplation that's much more visual, intuitive, and emotional, as opposed to the patterns of waking thought."

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It's that intuitiveness that makes so-called "epiphany" dreams such a valuable resource. "Dreams can provide inspiration or help you get unstuck from problems because your mind is working on things in this different way," Barrett says. Case in point: When she gave subjects instruction in a technique called "dream incubation," half of them dreamed about a problem they had focused on prior to going to sleep, and a full 25% had a dream that provided an actionable solution.

Granted, listening to the dreaming brain isn't easy. "Even though it might feel like it's a bizarre, cryptic language, if you can decode it, what remains is brutal self-honesty," explains Lauri Quinn Loewenberg, a member of the International Association for the Study of Dreams and founder of thedreamzone.com. "When you start connecting dreams with your waking life, you're able to see yourself and your true inner thoughts much more clearly."

Finding the meaning in your dreams is like growing a garden, the pros say: The more you do it, the greater the insights it yields. "If you're regularly tending your dreams, once in a while you'll have a breakthrough that grabs you by the throat," Barrett says.

Here are three women whose dreams provided just such a revelation.

Jan Brehm, 56, Portland, OR; an actress and mother of two daughters
The dream: "I went into the bathroom and pulled back the shower curtain. There was my daughter, now 26, at age 10 months. I felt a wave of horror. She was sitting in the tub shivering, and her lips were blue. I had forgotten I'd left her there. When I woke up, I was so disturbed that I couldn't shake off the image."

What it means: According to Loewenberg: "When you dream about someone very close to you, human nature is to figure out if the dream is literally about that person. But it may instead represent some part of your current life. I asked Jan what was going on with her daughter: Was there any guilt she was feeling? Jan said that was not the case, which was why the dream scared her so deeply.

"Since there didn't seem to be an issue with her daughter, I suggested that the infant might symbolize something else in her life that she'd been neglecting. We often refer to our ventures and projects as 'our baby,' because, like a baby, they are things that we must nourish and care for so they can reach their potential.

"You might not expect such a frightening dream to be associated with something joyful. But Jan's dreaming mind chose to send the message through a strong negative emotion in order to grab her attention."

What she did: "Several years back, I'd started to write and produce a DVD series on menopause, but when I couldn't get the funding for it, I stopped working on it," says Jan. "So when Lauri asked me if I had a creative project that I had abandoned, it stopped me cold. I knew instantly that the shivering baby was the menopause series. I plunged myself into the work, and I launched the DVD two years ago. The dream gave me the impetus to move forward."

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Claire Rosen

Lisa Espich, 41, Tucson; married to a man with a drug dependence
The dream: "In my dream, I woke in the middle of the night to find my husband was not in bed. I could hear a loud buzzing sound, so I got up to investigate. When I looked out into the backyard, I could see a spotlight hanging down from a tree. Under the light, I could see that my husband had set up a table saw. As I got closer, I could make out a woman's bloody torso. Several of her limbs were scattered on the ground.

"I noticed that our neighbor was looking over the fence and I knew that he would be calling the police. I panicked and told my husband that we needed to hide the body. I helped him dig a hole to bury the woman's remains. As we dug up the dirt, however, other limbs and body parts started to come to the surface. Soon our yard was filled with the remains of these other women. We finished burying the last of the evidence just before the sound of police sirens filled the air. When I answered the door, I acted as if everything was perfectly fine, but the police gave me a truth serum to get me to talk. As soon as I took it, the truth came out. When I woke up, I was sick to my stomach. I couldn't even talk to my husband."

What it means: According to Emery: "In the dream, Lisa has gone to investigate the situation, and the 'spotlight' is on her. As the dirt is dug up and the body parts start to surface, the facts are coming to light—that is, people are finding out about her husband's addiction.

"The biggest key turns when you take the word kill and associate it with similar words: such as shoot, gun, murder. The translation is that Lisa, the dreamer, is putting an end to the secrecy of her husband's addiction. To use an old cliché, the truth—represented by the truth serum in her dreams—will set her free."

What she did: "What really stuck with me from the dream was the sense of relief I felt once the truth came out," admits Lisa. "So I gathered the courage to do exactly what the dream was suggesting: I told my secret. Once my family knew the truth, they helped give me the strength to walk away from the situation.

"Amazingly, after I left, my husband was able to find his own courage and seek treatment for his addiction. He has now been clean and sober for more than five years, and our marriage is healthy again."

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Jennifer Lambert, 35, Virginia Beach, VA; her grandfather had died three weeks earlier
The dream: "My grandfather came to our house, and I was so excited to see him that I wrapped my arms around his neck for a hug. His first words were 'Don't be angry at your sister anymore.'

"At the time, my sister and I couldn't even be in the same room. While I'm the older one, she is definitely more aggressive, so I always held back what I thought for fear of her retaliating. When I woke up, I cried for about 30 minutes."

What it means: According to Barrett: "Sometimes it takes a dream to 'see' our grief and sadness, like what Jennifer felt toward her sister. Dreams are more likely to let the more divergent feelings inside us rise to our consciousness.

"The timing—just three weeks after her grandfather's death—suggests that this loss may have stirred up feelings about someone else Jennifer was missing: her sister. Her grandfather is someone she associated with a loving attitude, and it's usually people with a particular trait whom we select in dreams to voice an aspect of ourselves that's getting shortchanged in waking life. It would be difficult to offer her sister an olive branch when their relationship appeared so deadlocked, but the dream gave a clear push in that direction."

What she did: "A few days after the dream, I spoke to my sister and told her that I didn't like the way our relationship was going," recalls Jennifer, "and that I wanted our connection to be more like our mom and our aunt, who were very close. We still had a few rocky spots after that conversation, but now we're best friends. I don't know if our reconciliation would have happened without that dream."

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Claire Rosen

How To Remember Your Dreams
"We would all have a lot more 'aha' moments and life-changing realizations if we paid more attention to what dreams tell us," says Loewenberg. Here's how to teach yourself to recall more of your dreams, so you can make the most of your inner source of wisdom.

1. Consider your alarm clock. We awaken more naturally after REM sleep, and if a loud alarm jolts you out of the deeper, non-REM sleep, your dreams will be less accessible. If you must use an alarm clock, try one that wakes you gently with an increasingly louder bell, Loewenberg advises. That will allow you to shift to the lighter REM stage before you wake up.

2. Lie still after waking and let the dream come back to you. We tend to remember the dreams we wake up from rather than the ones we sleep through. "If you're a deep sleeper, then you'll likely remember only that last dream you have before you wake up," says Loewenberg. "However, even the sound sleeper can capture more than just the morning dream with practice. The more you remain still in the morning, each and every day, the more you'll be able to recall dreams from earlier in the night."

3. Keep a pad at your bedside to record the dream, or at least tell your bed partner about it over coffee. For even greater insight, keep a dream journal in tandem with a journal of daytime events. Then you can connect the dots. "You'll see how the angry bears in your dream last night remind you of how you yelled at your husband at dinner," says Loewenberg.

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Beth Howard Beth Howard writes about health and psychology from North Carolina.

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